A pal told the New York Post that Kid re-arranged his life for Pam, moving from Detroit to Los Angeles.
That same friend revealed that Kid often found himself home alone watching the kids, saying, "Pamela would go out almost every night."
Pam confessed in this month's Blender magazine, "When I go to Hollywood, I start at the Chateau Marmot and then usually end up naked in (photographer) David LaChapelle's studio taking crazy pictures."
The friend also revealed that the rocker, whose real name is Bob Richie, thought Pam was less than truthful about her miscarriage in November.
"Bob never saw any proof or heard from her at any time that she was pregnant," the friend said.
However, Anderson's rep said, "She absolutely had a miscarriage and only found out she was pregnant a few days before."
But Wednesday, in an all-new message on her website, Pam said, "I know I have people who want to defend me or people who want to defend Bob. But my children can read, and I'd like to resolve this amicably, not fueling fires and with dignity."
Pam also defended her soon-to-be ex, saying, "Truth is Bob is great in many ways - we just don't belong together - we mutually agree."