The two called off their engagement sometime last year, but the news did’t break until December. She revealed, "Relationships ending are painful, and you can choose to carry that or you can choose to reframe it. If Matt and I had a great relationship, we would still be together, but we chose to move on because we had different visions of how we wanted to live our lives. That doesn't mean, though, that we can't rebuild something that would be the best thing for the kids."
Though Hudson and Bellamy have ended their relationship, they are friendly exes who share one child together – Bingham, 4. "We said, 'We need to try to create something for the kids where they feel like they're gaining something rather than losing something.' It's been a seamless transition. Kids just want to see their parents be cool. Everybody's cool; everybody's good."
She added, "We create the experiences that we want to have. If you want to create the painful experience, you can do that. You have the power to make [any] situation a painful or a difficult one. I want to try to create experiences that will be positive for my kids."
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